Are you looking for a supportive community for women that are trying to conceive? If yes, you've found it!
Trying to conceive can be an emotional roller coaster, so this is a place where there is no such thing as 'too much information' and you can safely ask for support and let it all out. It is a support forum where you can open up and talk about the issues that are on your mind as you undertake the process of conceiving a child.
How to join
Before joining, please read the following five ground rules:
RULE #1: You must be trying for a baby before you join. If you get pregnant you are welcome to always be a member here, but please do not join unless you are trying. This means DO NOT join if you wish you were trying or if will be trying in the future or in a few months, or if you have a friend who is trying.
RULE #2: Please remember this is a support forum and offer support to others in a manner that is respectful, helpful, non-judgemental, and non-confrontational,
RULE #3: Introductions are mandatory & all members must post and introduction after they join.
RULE #4: Please use a lj-cut for announcements that you are pregnant or if you're discussing possible pregnancy symptoms. For anything related to pregnancy announcements or symptoms, use the words "pregnancy mentioned" in your cut.
RULE #5: No advertising here and please note this community is not a place to request information for research purposes or for material for a book you are writing etc etc
After you have read the 5 ground rules, you will be able to determine if the community is suitable for you. To join, go to the user info page and add yourself as a member.
"This place is an awesome source of support from women who are knowledgeable and kind." by acidgirltogo
"Trying to get pregnant has been the most difficult and stressful time in my life. It's so great to have a place to come and talk to other women who are also struggling. We support each other and give advice and just allow each other to vent. With infertility, it often seems like no one else could possibly understand what you are going through. In this community I've found so much support and love. I honestly don't know how I would have made it through IVF without it." by crazygirl62612
"It was so great to be able to discuss my fears and issues with other women who were having problems getting pregnant. My real-life friends and and family all just gave the same advice "Relax!" and "You're trying too hard." The women in the community really helped me understand my body and how it works. I also met some wonderful women, some of whom I have stayed connected with throughout our pregnancies and as we are having our babies." from 4now
"Getting pregnant can be a stressful time when it doesn't all go as planned. Having this community for support, advice, or just venting has helped a lot. It's great to have people who know what you are going through." by myko
"This is a great place for me to rant when I can't do it to anyone else..." by imaphotohog707
"Over the two years of my ttc, the temping, charting, and the 2ww's, I felt very alone. We all have our partners, but really at the very core of our desire to be moms is a burning personal quest that is only palpable to us. I felt that way until the very day that anortherngirl accepted me into this group. Reading the stories, some of which were so eerily similar to my own, I came to depend on the members in the community. In late May/early June of 2007 anotherngirl wrote a post that so moved me, and I replied that we would each get our baby. I think finally in that moment, I believed it for myself too, despite two miscarriages and eight failed IUI cycles. I believed it so much that instead of being devastated when I was told that my IVF clinic would be closed and that I would have to wait until August of 2007 to try again, I decided to do one last IUI. It worked. On June 25th of last year I got the news that I was pregnant. I was extremely happy but also very worried that this pregnancy too would end in loss. I couldn't announce my news. For me ttc didn't end until Feb '08 when they put my daughter in my arms. Oddly enough, despite her birth my thoughts were still here with this group. Each day, I still check in. For every person who writes her story, who shared her fears, I thank you. I am thankful for every article or new medical approach anotherngirl posted. The members here bouyed me when I was on the brink of losing faith. I consider each of you a part of a veritable village of people who helped get my daughter here and I am truly grateful. I root for each of you and I know in my heart that as you carried me through ttc and my pregnancy, the same kindness will be visited upon each of you." by whatawish42006
"This community has given me a place to vent my frustrations, and get support from others that are going thru the same." by dreamsgoneawry
"I have found lots of friendly people here who have lots of good info." by vidmaker_19
"This community has made me feel like I'm not the only one having difficulty ttc ." by acdchica
"I haven't been an active poster here, but I've been reading for a while. I gotta say it was ridiculously helpful for me and my mental health to be able to be a part of this community while I was TTC." by thewordfairy
Frequently Asked Questions
What type of information should go behind a LJ-cut? It is required that you use a lj-cut with the word 'pregnancy mentioned' if you are posting about pregnancy or pregnancy symptoms.
Why do I have to post pregnancy related info behind a cut? Some members in the community are sensitive to this information due to the fertility issues and challenges they face. For example, women who have recently miscarried may not want to read all the details of a recent pregnancy announcement.
Do I need to do a LJ-cut if I am discussing miscarriage or previous children? No, you only need to do a LJ-cut if you are posting about a new pregnancy or new pregnancy symptoms. If you are posting about miscarriage or previous children and you'd like to use a lj-cut, that is appreciated but it is not required.
What types of situations would be considered a violation of rule #2? Violations of rule #2 would include: - suggesting that a member is too young to try to have a baby - suggesting that a member already has 3 kids and shouldn't be trying for another - suggesting that someone needs to lose weight before they start trying for a baby - suggesting that someone is diabetic and therefore shouldn't try for a baby - suggesting that someone who had a miscarriage is better off because they can't afford a baby
I read that introductions are mandatory. How do I post an introduction? After you join, post these 10 introduction questions in the community with your answers: 1. First name? 2. Age? Location? Marital Status? 3. How did you find this community? 4. How long have you been trying for a baby and what challenges do you have? (ie. medical issues, previous miscarriages, etc) 5. What have you done so far to prepare for getting pregnant? 6. Tell us one or two random things about you and/or your husband? 7. How are you feeling about the prospect of getting pregnant? 8. What do you hope to get out of being a member of this community? 9. What are you looking forward to the most about being a new mom or having another baby? 10. Anything else you'd like to tell us or anything you think we should know about you?
I don't want to post my age or my first name in my introduction. Can I modify the intro survey questions? Yes, feel free to change the questions or to omit any info that you'd prefer not to include.
How do I hide part of my entry behind a link with a lj-cut? A lj-cut allows you to hide all or part of your entry behind a link. The part you lj-cut is hidden on your main journal page and on Friends pages, but you can still see the full entry on the "Read Comments" page, when you preview your entry, or when you view your entry by following the link on the Post an Entry confirmation page. For instructions, click on this link: how to do a LJ cut
What is a HPT? OR DPO? OR PCOS? HPT is a home pregnancy test, DPO is days past ovulation, and PCOS is polycystic ovary syndrome. For more abbreviations, see the glossary (below).
I've been trying for over a year and I'm now considered infertile. Where can I get support from others who are in a similar situation? You can join our sister community, infertilees. It is for women who have been trying to conceive who have been diagnosed as infertile (trying for 6 months if over 35 or a year if less than 35 yrs old).
I need help figuring out whether or not I am pregnant. Where do I go? This is a ttc communty, so if you need help figuring out if you're pregnant I would recommend you try amipregnant.
I'm pregnant! Can I tell the community members or is that too sensitive? Yes, please let us know! Many people are inspired by pregnancy announcements. These announcements are considered to be sensitive, so if you find you are pregnant let the community know by posting about it using the lj-cut with the words "PREGNANCY MENTIONED".
Can I talk about my pregnancy here? No, this isn't a pregnancy community but you can join trying4grads and talk about it with the other grads.
Can I talk about my miscarriage here? Yes, you can get support here about your miscarriage and to get back on your feet so you can try again. For additional support, I recommend also trying miscarriage.
If I'm pregnant, do I have to leave this community? You don't have to leave and you'll never be asked to leave. Feel free to give advice and to make supportive comments to members that are trying to conceive.
Someone has posted something without a LJ-cut and it needs to be behind a cut. How can I fix this quickly? Politely ask them to do a LJ-cut and mention that this is a community rule.
Do you have any hints or tips for giving and getting support in a supportive community? Here are some tips: 1. When you see an introduction in the community, respond to it with a friendly note 2. Ask for opinions and feedback 3. If you need support, be direct and ask for advice & help 4. Give a kind word to someone who needs it 5. When you receive good advice, pass it on when the opportunity arises 6. Don't post anything negative & remember if you can't say anything nice don't say anything 7. Ask questions when you're not sure & even if you think it might be a silly or odd question 8. Thank people when they've help you
Someone has offended me. What should I do? It is suggested that you ignore this person & seek help from those who are supportive. If you'd like to report it, contact the moderators sewcute and lecheile and we will respond as soon as possible.
Glossary of TTC terms:
2WW = 2 Week Wait AF = Aunt Flo (menstruation) BBT = Basal Body Temperature BCP = Birth Control Pills BFN = Big Fat Negative (pregnancy test result) BFP = Big Fat Positive (pregnancy test result) CM = Cervical Mucus DPO = Days Past Ovulation EDD = Estimated Due Date EPT = Early Pregnancy Test EWCM = Egg White Cervical Mucus FET = Frozen Embryo Transfer FMU = First Morning Urine hCG/HCG = Human Chorionic Gonadotropin HPT = Home Pregnancy Test HSC = Hysteroscopy HSG = Hysterosalpingogram IP = Intended Parent IUI = Intra-uterine Insemination IVF = In Vitro Fertilization LH = Luteinizing Hormone OB = Obstetrician OB/GYN = Obstetrician/Gynecologist OPK = Ovulation Predictor Kit PCOS = Polycystic Ovary Syndrome RE = Reproductive Endrocrinologist TTC = Trying to Conceive